Eastern thought states, "The mind creates this world."
We also believe that "everything in this world is made up of relationships (dependence) in the mind."
It is an old Eastern thought that there are as many physical realities as there are people in the world.
People only recognise certain phenomena, and there is no existence of things outside the mind.
And each person only recognises the world (space) created by their mind.
Being conscious of the virtual space created by each person's mind means feeling a sense of reality.
Conversely, if you can't feel the virtual space, you don't feel the presence.
When humans have a strong sense of presence
in a particular world (including virtual space),
The world becomes real.
The function of homeostasis, which I have introduced many times on my blog, responds not only to environmental changes in the real physical world but also to changes in information in the brain.
Homeostasis is the maintenance of homeostasis. Human beings have a mechanism that always tries to maintain a stable and constant state in response to changes in the external environment that can cause stress. Homeostasis constantly updates its information through feedback from the outside world to keep the organism alive. For example, the body temperature will decrease if the outside temperature rises. If you exercise, your breathing and heart rate will increase to supply that energy.
Homeostasis is the ability to make a virtual space feel realistic and realistic.
We feel a shared objective world (space) between us.
If you can share the "realistic space" of others with yourself,
You will be able to tune in to others.
The reason why humans create spaces is to share a sense of presence. For two or more individuals to share a space, homeostasis creates an information processing space and stabilises that space.
Humans unconsciously regulate their body temperature to maintain a stable body, and we tend to think that homeostasis exists for this purpose, but this is incorrect.
Because of homeostasis, this world (universe) was born. Homeostasis is the force that keeps the universe alive.
Therefore, both the physical space and the information space of the individual are maintained by homeostasis.
Not only that, but the power of homeostasis also acts on relationships between people living in the same world.
Just as we regulate our body temperature by sweating in the physical and information space, maintaining a sense of realism and having a realistic image are the means.
Humans die when they leave a space with a sense of presence.
If you get away from the realism of "breathing" in physical space, you will not have to breathe.
People die if they don't breathe.
The death of the physical space means that the state of presence of the physical space disappears.
It is to stop participating in a space with a sense of presence. Not participating in the immersive space is called death.
When you think about the above, the secret to communicating well with people is to create a realistic space between you and that person and control that space. It can be said.
All you have to do is pull them into an immersive space
that you can control.
When two or more people share a single immersive space, it creates a unique feeling between the people sharing it.
In clinical psychology, this is called rapport.
Here's an example I recently encountered.
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One day, I received a friend request on Facebook from a female surgeon.
She was curious that she had just joined Facebook recently, but she lives in London from her profile. Could she talk about golf? Of course, I accepted her friend request.
At first, we exchanged some conversations about the circumstances of the coronavirus in Japan.
She returned with a reply saying "don't take" about the vaccination.
I trusted her a little, saying, "You're a female doctor." But on the other hand, many experts worldwide are now pointing out the dangers of vaccines.
I thought it wouldn't be strange to have such insight even if I wasn't a doctor.
She then commented, "I am stationed in Iraq as a member of Doctors Without Borders. I plan to go to Japan to practice when my current contract expires."
I half trusted her as a doctor, so she replied, "If there is anything I can do, I can help."
That triggered her to send me a long text and start telling her story.
I think most people would sympathise with her if they heard her story.
Over the years, I have become more dedicated to my work and saving lives has become a top priority.
Life here in Iraq has been highly stressful, and the attacks have been made even more difficult by the current pandemic.
I think it's right to tell more about myself, and I hope you can do the same.
My late parents came to America in 1975 during the war. A Catholic missionary told me that he helped them settle down and make a fresh start in England after I was born five years later (1980).
My late father passed away a few months before I was born. The grief of the consequences of the war deprived me of an older brother whom I had never met or met.
Thanks to that, I became the only child of my late mother.
She lost her mother to her then-current illness two years after I was born and was taken in by Catholic missionaries where she grew up.
My godmother Pastor Margaret who cared for me until I became the woman I am today, passed away in 2017 (May her soul rest in peace, Amen). It has been the most challenging part of my life. One of those times, I got to know her and learned more about my life from her.
I miss her. I believe she is in heaven.
I am a childless widow whose husband died a few years ago.
My mother is from Osaka, a modern Japanese port city famous for its bustling nightlife, restaurants and Osaka Castle.
Her father is from London, England.
But sadly, I've never been to Osaka and don't know the place.
Can you see why I said my life is a little complicated?
I would love to know more about you, your background, your religion, and more personal things about yourself. Hopefully, this will help us build this friendship.
Finally, my friend, due to the challenges we face here in Iraq, social facilities such as webcams, phones and all forms of social activity are restricted for security reasons.
Using Facebook or Instagram is against the rules. So I rush out for a quick message instead of staying longer in a chat.
Line communication will be better for us. I hope you can understand the situation.
Please, your prayers are highly appreciated.
When I first read this sentence, I felt a little sympathy. But, if you look at it from the theory of good nature, I don't think it was such a strange decision.
However, I wondered, "What kind of organisation is Doctors Without Borders?"
Then, on the website of Doctors Without Borders, there was an article urging a warning of "international romance fraud".
It was a typical scam story warned by HP.
Now let's get back to the topic.
She's a fraud, so she should have a little more technique.
She should have studied rapport a little more.
Rapport arises only when there is a substantial presence space shared. Rapport does not mean sharing a sense of presence.
In our first conversation, I got a good impression that he is a fine doctor who works tirelessly in a harsh environment as part of Doctors Without Borders.
In my mind, that good image overlapped with the image of her holding a syringe, and I had a feeling that it would develop into a shared immersive space.
But in the following comment, she confesses her love to a man she's never met.
Isn't it too unrealistic?
However, I think it depends on the level of realism you feel at the beginning, whether you feel that "confession of love" is too early or accept it naturally.
I sometimes feel a sense of realism and relaxation when reading a novel. It is a state in which the sense of presence in the virtual space has increased.
She was a success if she could maintain this state well and increase it to the point where I felt rapport.
Also, in the cases disclosed by Doctors Without Borders, patterns are standardised admirably.
It is inferior to a fraudulent organisation.
I immediately blocked her account.
Perhaps she will reactivate her Facebook account and try again under a different name.
After this, you may use the same account for several ducks.
However, the suspicion group she belongs to probably tells her to continue with the same story, just returning to a different profession, such as a nurse, to a different country.
I imagine you think it's enough because it's just patterned.
However, this standard document lacks the essential knowledge of rapport. Not listed.
The way of working has not changed.
She successfully made me feel a rapport, but outside the reach of homeostasis, she was destroying her reality.
I think that the "hand of love" from the international fraud group will reach out to everyone who uses SNS, but please be careful not to feel the reality in the virtual space.